He who has overcome his fears will truly be free……. Aristotle
Fear is a very big deal. It can leave us completely frozen or leave us incapacitated.
Imagine being left crippled with fear all of your life? Imagine having your future bottled up because of fear? Imagine the traumas you have to face every day?
Why did she have to go through this horrible experience and be left incapacitated almost for her entire life? Doesn’t she have the right to feel as an equal with the man?
My biggest fear has always been the fear of speaking out about my experiences. Just talking about it makes my heart beat. Life has taught me that continuously the universe will throw something hard at you but I have the opportunity and the chance to come out shining from the other side.
The thought of talking about the sexual abuse caused her to contemplate suicide. The fear of being stigmatised and rejected by the immediate family sent her frozen. The fear of getting pregnant the 2nd time and being forced to have an abortion crippled her and stole away her sense of belonging. The fear of speaking out caused her to harm herself. She did not feel loved. She believed the world hated her. The experience was unbearable. She lived in fear most of her life. She told herself there was no more life for her. Getting pregnant the 2nd time due to the sexual abuse would have sent her into an early grave.
She was only 19 years when she experienced this.
Studies suggest that the chance of getting pregnant from one- time, unprotected intercourse is between 3.1% -5%, depending on a multitude of factors, including the time of month intercourse occurs, whether contraceptives were used and the age of the female. The average number of rapes and sexual assaults against females of childbearing is approximately 250,000. This is a general estimate and the actual number may differ from country to country. This statistic presents information from number of different studies.
She didn’t need to go through this horrible experience for someone’s selfish desire. Her life was shattered and bottled down for years. Thank God for the counselling and support she received. Now she has bounced back a lot stronger and empowering many women out there. This is what I have to tell my lovely ladies out there…NEVER LET YOUR FEAR DECIDE YOUR BRIGHT AND BEAUTIFUL FUTURE. Ladies, let’s all rise up for the fight against sexual abuse
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#EmpoweringWomenNow
